This is part four of a five-part series “Flipping Ambition: Achieving More by Effectively Slacking Off”. Click here to read the rest of the series.
Fake Weeds that Can Trick You
Weeding out the weeds is a great start to a healthy garden of ambition, but it must be done delicately to be most effective. That delicate hand must ensure you’re truly weeding out useless weeds and not accidently ripping out things that may appear to be weeds but really aren’t.
One type of fake weed is a weakness we like to call a “Pivot Point.” The other is a unique skill or unusual strength that you may believe is a weed but is really a phenomenal asset. Recognizing and nourishing both is definitely in order. Let’s start with the pivot points.
Pivot points explained
Pivot points are points of weakness that actually do matter to your skill set, ambition and happiness. While pivot points are weaknesses in the sense they are things at which you aren’t very good, they are not weaknesses you want to ignore. That’s because improving a pivot point, even a small one, can cascade over to improve multiple areas of your life.
Your anxiety is a prime example of a pivot point. If you try to ignore something like anxiety, it typically tends to grow and worsen, becoming like a fungus over the entire garden that blankets all other areas with stunted growth and loads of woe.
If you instead address the anxiety, the garden will begin to flourish. Addressing anxiety is a single improvement that can lead to vast and multiple improvements at work, social and other areas of your life because it currently hinders them all.
Another example of a pivot point may be something like losing weight. Losing weight is a single improvement that can improve many areas of your life. Achieving a healthy weight can improve your overall health and energy levels, making it possible for you to spend more time enjoying activities you love.
You’ll also look and feel better about yourself, which boosts your confidence levels and improves your interactions in social situations and your level of attractiveness to your significant other. The next thing you know your relationship gets better, you get a promotion due to your revved up work performance and, by golly, those jeans you wore in high school fit you once again. All these improvements come from working on a single pivot point, and you get to wear your favorite denims once again.
Exercise: Pinpointing pivot points
Review your day’s interactions and emotions. Where are you showing bouts of weaknesses that, if improved, could improve various areas of your life? Identify your specific pivot points and find ways to work on improving them.
Is anxiety an issue? Do things to increase your activity levels and exercise, just one method that helps quash anxiety. Open a discussion with your significant other or close friend on what stresses you out or makes you anxious. Make sure you get enough sleep.
Want to lose weight? Bring grilled chicken and take a brisk walk during lunch instead of heading mindlessly for the nearest burger joint.
Improving little things can mean a lot when those little things are pivot points. Now let’s get to other type of fake weed: the screaming differences.
Embracing the zinnias
If you have a unique skill, strength or interest, which we’ll call zinnias, it can make you feel awkward or even embarrassed. You can pretend not to enjoy a particular activity that enhances the strength or avoid the strength altogether just because it makes you feel so different from the crowd.
Cut it out.
Just because your strengths are different than common strengths exhibited from other people does not mean they are weeds. Different is not bad. Different can be beautiful! Embrace the zinnias.
Your unique plot of zinnias can make for a garden that really stands out from the rest. Imagine how boring life would be if every garden only grew daisies. What a tiresome world it would be if everyone only grew corn. Don’t settle for being average with a field full of corn when you can be great if you nurture and celebrate your zinnias.
Exercise: Celebrate the zinnias
Find one or two strengths or interests that make you stand out from the crowd of corn. Pay attention to those differences and then start to celebrate and nourish them.
Ask yourself how you can use that unique skill in daily life. Perhaps you can help other people. Maybe your skill can help you at work. Maybe it can transfer to a hobby or even a career that blows other people’s minds or makes Einstein-ian contributions to science. You’ll never know the greatness you can achieve with that zinnia unless you focus and develop it so it can thrive.
Besides, focusing on what comes naturally can make you happy. Forcing yourself into things for which you are not naturally suited tends to annihilate self-esteem. You’ll keep doing the things, being lousy at them, and start to feel “less than” everyone else who may be better at them. You can also start to feel not good enough the way you are, which is really the only way you can ever be. Give yourself a break by letting your zinnias thrive. You may be amazed by the outcome.
More amazement shall be yours with the final article coming up next. It shows you how to really make your garden blossom by focusing on your strengths.
This is part four of a five-part series “Flipping Ambition: Achieving More by Effectively Slacking Off”. Click here to read the rest of the series.
